Colleen Jantzen – Life Celebrant

“Mourning is a complicated process. But it is necessary, and it must be done properly for a person to successfully recover from the death of a loved one. Grieving is active work. The grieving person needs to come to terms with his or her loss, recognizing the fact of the loved one’s death. This, by itself, is a difficult task and one that even viewing a corpse may not completely help achieve. Once the fact of the loss is recognized, the mourner must mourn — weep, wail and agonize. And finally, out of the depths of the traumatic severing of a beloved relationship, the mourner must slowly rebuilt a life as a new person. Mourners will suffer the death of all the ways they have absorbed the characters of their loved ones. All the ways one person relies on another must be taken up for oneself. This takes time and a great deal of healing.” The Art of Dying: Living Fully into the Life to Come by Rob Moll p. 127-128